engineering 3rd year....

Hello,


In my short stint of little over two months of blog writing, I have so far posted 26 blogs and this is the 27th. It has been a great experiencing sharing my real life experiences with my readers and I will feel privileged if it has helped a few of us to change and live life king size.

I am certainly a changed person as a human being now as what I am doing now was totally unimaginable by any stretch of imagination while I was a part of the corporate world. Not that I did not enjoy my corporate life but gone are the pressure of 24 X 7 working now and I can take life a bit easy.
Human beings never cease to learn. Life and necessities teach us so many things. I am no exception.
It also depends upon our attitude to keep pace with ongoing technological advancements which are happening at a frenetic pace these days. A few of these are necessities for our survival which we need to learn and adapt without which we are likely to be left behind in the race.
I gathered  adequate knowledge of computers to cater to my personal and official responsibilities in my corporate life but have never been computer savvy.
However, a need arose to gather in depth knowledge about computers to cater to requirement of blog writing and this is what I have exactly been doing over last few weeks. It's really a pleasure and I am enjoying the learning experience.
There is a childish eagerness and inquisitiveness in me to explore the world more and more in my 2nd innings.
And I had the greatest satisfaction yesterday when I could create my own website http://familyisreal.com where also my blogs can be viewed.  I will continue to learn every minute till I am able to master the art to an extent which will suffice to handle my website. It's indeed a milestone for me. I offer my deepest gratitude to God and Universe for the same. They have always been very kind to me.
As promised in my previous blog I go back to my 3rd year engineering course days.
Having suffered a sort of setback in the 2nd year with regard to my performance in the examination due to certain distractions which was nothing but complacency and also illness to some extent, I  took a self pledge never to repeat the mistake.
Meanwhile all of us shifted to new hostel. Our college was a fully residential one and it was mandatory to shift to a new hostel at the beginning of every year.
Honestly speaking I am not one who subscribes to the principle of forgetting the world and concentrate wholly and solely on studies because it will never yield the desired result in the long run. I attended classes & sessionals regularly, studied hard, really hard but also enjoyed other things.
Our group Octet also grew with time and all of us were getting emotionally bound more and more. Perhaps we were accepting internally that the time to get separated was gradually approaching. Most of us are still in touch with each other off and on. We even have our second generation in place making us feel that we are catching up with our age.
But today's generation is in a different mould. It is much more responsible and enlightened. It knows what to do and what is the best for them ? The world has changed so much and there are so many avenues available for them which could not even be remotely thought of  during our days. The need of the hour is to guide and give direction to their abilities suitably. In fact there is a lot for people like us to learn from them.

Going to movies on fortnightly basis, enjoying sun after lunch, sharing ground nut sitting on the lawn or in one of the rooms literally every day, gossiping sometimes, holding informal hardcore debates on any topic during examination preparation days  are a few activities which would relieve me of the pressure and proved to be really helpful in the end.
It was a year of reckoning and I passed out with flying colours.
It not only restored my self confidence but also gave me a renewed vigour for doing even better in the 4th and final year. I will share this journey in my next blog...
Time flies and let us enjoy each and every moment...
Excited to be alive today...





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http://familyisreal.com
kumarskumar.blogspot.com
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engineering 3rd year....

Hello,


In my short stint of little over two months of blog writing, I have so far posted 26 blogs and this is the 27th. It has been a great experiencing sharing my real life experiences with my readers and I will feel privileged if it has helped a few of us to change and live life king size.

I am certainly a changed person as a human being now as what I am doing now was totally unimaginable by any stretch of imagination while I was a part of the corporate world. Not that I did not enjoy my corporate life but gone are the pressure of 24 X 7 working now and I can take life a bit easy.
Human beings never cease to learn. Life and necessities teach us so many things. I am no exception.
It also depends upon our attitude to keep pace with ongoing technological advancements which are happening at a frenetic pace these days. A few of these are necessities for our survival which we need to learn and adapt without which we are likely to be left behind in the race.
I gathered  adequate knowledge of computers to cater to my personal and official responsibilities in my corporate life but have never been computer savvy.
However, a need arose to gather in depth knowledge about computers to cater to requirement of blog writing and this is what I have exactly been doing over last few weeks. It's really a pleasure and I am enjoying the learning experience.
There is a childish eagerness and inquisitiveness in me to explore the world more and more in my 2nd innings.
And I had the greatest satisfaction yesterday when I could create my own website http://familyisreal.com where also my blogs can be viewed.  I will continue to learn every minute till I am able to master the art to an extent which will suffice to handle my website. It's indeed a milestone for me. I offer my deepest gratitude to God and Universe for the same. They have always been very kind to me.
As promised in my previous blog I go back to my 3rd year engineering course days.
Having suffered a sort of setback in the 2nd year with regard to my performance in the examination due to certain distractions which was nothing but complacency and also illness to some extent, I  took a self pledge never to repeat the mistake.
Meanwhile all of us shifted to new hostel. Our college was a fully residential one and it was mandatory to shift to a new hostel at the beginning of every year.
Honestly speaking I am not one who subscribes to the principle of forgetting the world and concentrate wholly and solely on studies because it will never yield the desired result in the long run. I attended classes & sessionals regularly, studied hard, really hard but also enjoyed other things.
Our group Octet also grew with time and all of us were getting emotionally bound more and more. Perhaps we were accepting internally that the time to get separated was gradually approaching. Most of us are still in touch with each other off and on. We even have our second generation in place making us feel that we are catching up with our age.
But today's generation is in a different mould. It is much more responsible and enlightened. It knows what to do and what is the best for them ? The world has changed so much and there are so many avenues available for them which could not even be remotely thought of  during our days. The need of the hour is to guide and give direction to their abilities suitably. In fact there is a lot for people like us to learn from them.

Going to movies on fortnightly basis, enjoying sun after lunch, sharing ground nut sitting on the lawn or in one of the rooms literally every day, gossiping sometimes, holding informal hardcore debates on any topic during examination preparation days  are a few activities which would relieve me of the pressure and proved to be really helpful in the end.
It was a year of reckoning and I passed out with flying colours.
It not only restored my self confidence but also gave me a renewed vigour for doing even better in the 4th and final year. I will share this journey in my next blog...
Time flies and let us enjoy each and every moment...
Excited to be alive today...





Please view my blogs on
http://familyisreal.com
kumarskumar.blogspot.com
My blogs on FB
@skumar272010 on Twitter

Ego ~ Self esteem ~ Standpoint....

Hello...




                                         It's a bright and sunny morning today and I am able to experience the sunrise from the balcony of my home. It's the instant at which the upper edge of the Sun appears over the horizon in the morning. I feel like receiving tremendous positive energy and  am sure most of us watching the sunrise must have undergone the same experience. I bowed before Sun God and offered my small prayer as is my wont.

                                        God and Universe have been very kind to have blessed me with this new abode and I am truly grateful to them for the same.
                                        Human beings are confronted with many a thoughts when they decide to write spontaneously on a subject of their choice. Today I was thinking of going back to my engineering course time period because that is where I left before blogging on a few topics of great importance. But I then realized that I must share my experience and learning on ego vs. self esteem vs. standpoint this time and this is what I am exactly doing today.
                                         Ego is the "I" or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought.
                                         Psychoanalysis, the part of the psychic apparatus that experiences and reacts to outside world and thus mediates between the primitive drives of the id and the demands of the social and physical environment.
                                          Self - esteem is confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self - respect. In sociology and psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgement of oneself as well as an attitude towards the self.

                                          Standpoint is described as a position from which objects and principles are viewed and according to which they are compared and judged; a way in which something is thought about or considered.
                                          Ego is absolutely people based; situation dependent and invariably involves the other person in the equation. Standpoint is independent of people or situation; it is issue based and will never have the other person in the equation.
                                          Self-esteem is a very important part of success in life.Too little self-esteem can leave us feeling defeated or depressed. It can also lead us to make bad choices, fall into destructive relationships, or fail to live up to our own full potential.

                                          But we will be well advised to keep it within check because too much self-esteem is destructive. It can even damage personal relationships.
                                          Self-esteem levels at the extreme high and low ends of the spectrum can be damaging, so the ideal is to strike a balance somewhere in the middle.
                                          I remember in my college days when many professors used to close the lecture theater doors right on dot of scheduled class timings. I experienced this in my corporate life also and to tell you frankly I liked it because I am also in the same mould. It does not mean that they were egoistic; rather they had their own standpoint on these issues.
                                          I also followed it in my corporate life. I used to say that when we never miss a movie or a train or a flight; why can't we be punctual in corporate life too ? There is a great difference between being in the office 5 minutes before scheduled start timing rather than being 5 minutes late even though the system may permit it. People understood my standpoint and many of them even tried to follow it.
                                           It will not be out of place to mention here that we should do the seeding in this regards in the children at a young age so that they are able to understand and handle life with ease.
                                         This has helped me immensely in my personal life too. I have very rarely, in fact never if my memory serves me right since I understood it,  missed my appointments, train, flight or a movie for any reason attributable to my own self. Moreover, it always helped me in being mentally and physically ready for any important occasion.
                                         Sometimes we tend to change our standpoint for the sake of convenience but let us remember that If it can be changed then it is not standpoint. If we do not stand on our standpoints in our lives, we will fall for everything.
                                         Every moment will become heavy, every situation will be nerve - wracking, every interaction will be tense.
                                         An ego filled heart is always walking on fire. Never can there be a moment of marriage between ego and ease.
                                         But with standpoints in life, life becomes easy and smooth for us and for people around us, because our decisions will be  made based on standpoints and not on situations.

Decision making becomes very difficult without standpoints.
Ego based life is chaotic. Standpoint based life is orderly.


Choice is ours




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