Ego ~ Self esteem ~ Standpoint....

Hello...




                                         It's a bright and sunny morning today and I am able to experience the sunrise from the balcony of my home. It's the instant at which the upper edge of the Sun appears over the horizon in the morning. I feel like receiving tremendous positive energy and  am sure most of us watching the sunrise must have undergone the same experience. I bowed before Sun God and offered my small prayer as is my wont.

                                        God and Universe have been very kind to have blessed me with this new abode and I am truly grateful to them for the same.
                                        Human beings are confronted with many a thoughts when they decide to write spontaneously on a subject of their choice. Today I was thinking of going back to my engineering course time period because that is where I left before blogging on a few topics of great importance. But I then realized that I must share my experience and learning on ego vs. self esteem vs. standpoint this time and this is what I am exactly doing today.
                                         Ego is the "I" or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought.
                                         Psychoanalysis, the part of the psychic apparatus that experiences and reacts to outside world and thus mediates between the primitive drives of the id and the demands of the social and physical environment.
                                          Self - esteem is confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self - respect. In sociology and psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgement of oneself as well as an attitude towards the self.

                                          Standpoint is described as a position from which objects and principles are viewed and according to which they are compared and judged; a way in which something is thought about or considered.
                                          Ego is absolutely people based; situation dependent and invariably involves the other person in the equation. Standpoint is independent of people or situation; it is issue based and will never have the other person in the equation.
                                          Self-esteem is a very important part of success in life.Too little self-esteem can leave us feeling defeated or depressed. It can also lead us to make bad choices, fall into destructive relationships, or fail to live up to our own full potential.

                                          But we will be well advised to keep it within check because too much self-esteem is destructive. It can even damage personal relationships.
                                          Self-esteem levels at the extreme high and low ends of the spectrum can be damaging, so the ideal is to strike a balance somewhere in the middle.
                                          I remember in my college days when many professors used to close the lecture theater doors right on dot of scheduled class timings. I experienced this in my corporate life also and to tell you frankly I liked it because I am also in the same mould. It does not mean that they were egoistic; rather they had their own standpoint on these issues.
                                          I also followed it in my corporate life. I used to say that when we never miss a movie or a train or a flight; why can't we be punctual in corporate life too ? There is a great difference between being in the office 5 minutes before scheduled start timing rather than being 5 minutes late even though the system may permit it. People understood my standpoint and many of them even tried to follow it.
                                           It will not be out of place to mention here that we should do the seeding in this regards in the children at a young age so that they are able to understand and handle life with ease.
                                         This has helped me immensely in my personal life too. I have very rarely, in fact never if my memory serves me right since I understood it,  missed my appointments, train, flight or a movie for any reason attributable to my own self. Moreover, it always helped me in being mentally and physically ready for any important occasion.
                                         Sometimes we tend to change our standpoint for the sake of convenience but let us remember that If it can be changed then it is not standpoint. If we do not stand on our standpoints in our lives, we will fall for everything.
                                         Every moment will become heavy, every situation will be nerve - wracking, every interaction will be tense.
                                         An ego filled heart is always walking on fire. Never can there be a moment of marriage between ego and ease.
                                         But with standpoints in life, life becomes easy and smooth for us and for people around us, because our decisions will be  made based on standpoints and not on situations.

Decision making becomes very difficult without standpoints.
Ego based life is chaotic. Standpoint based life is orderly.


Choice is ours




Wishing you all a true World Environment Day , 5th June





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http://wp.me/p8OWta-u
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Ego ~ Self esteem ~ Standpoint....

Hello...




                                         It's a bright and sunny morning today and I am able to experience the sunrise from the balcony of my home. It's the instant at which the upper edge of the Sun appears over the horizon in the morning. I feel like receiving tremendous positive energy and  am sure most of us watching the sunrise must have undergone the same experience. I bowed before Sun God and offered my small prayer as is my wont.

                                        God and Universe have been very kind to have blessed me with this new abode and I am truly grateful to them for the same.
                                        Human beings are confronted with many a thoughts when they decide to write spontaneously on a subject of their choice. Today I was thinking of going back to my engineering course time period because that is where I left before blogging on a few topics of great importance. But I then realized that I must share my experience and learning on ego vs. self esteem vs. standpoint this time and this is what I am exactly doing today.
                                         Ego is the "I" or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought.
                                         Psychoanalysis, the part of the psychic apparatus that experiences and reacts to outside world and thus mediates between the primitive drives of the id and the demands of the social and physical environment.
                                          Self - esteem is confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self - respect. In sociology and psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgement of oneself as well as an attitude towards the self.

                                          Standpoint is described as a position from which objects and principles are viewed and according to which they are compared and judged; a way in which something is thought about or considered.
                                          Ego is absolutely people based; situation dependent and invariably involves the other person in the equation. Standpoint is independent of people or situation; it is issue based and will never have the other person in the equation.
                                          Self-esteem is a very important part of success in life.Too little self-esteem can leave us feeling defeated or depressed. It can also lead us to make bad choices, fall into destructive relationships, or fail to live up to our own full potential.

                                          But we will be well advised to keep it within check because too much self-esteem is destructive. It can even damage personal relationships.
                                          Self-esteem levels at the extreme high and low ends of the spectrum can be damaging, so the ideal is to strike a balance somewhere in the middle.
                                          I remember in my college days when many professors used to close the lecture theater doors right on dot of scheduled class timings. I experienced this in my corporate life also and to tell you frankly I liked it because I am also in the same mould. It does not mean that they were egoistic; rather they had their own standpoint on these issues.
                                          I also followed it in my corporate life. I used to say that when we never miss a movie or a train or a flight; why can't we be punctual in corporate life too ? There is a great difference between being in the office 5 minutes before scheduled start timing rather than being 5 minutes late even though the system may permit it. People understood my standpoint and many of them even tried to follow it.
                                           It will not be out of place to mention here that we should do the seeding in this regards in the children at a young age so that they are able to understand and handle life with ease.
                                         This has helped me immensely in my personal life too. I have very rarely, in fact never if my memory serves me right since I understood it,  missed my appointments, train, flight or a movie for any reason attributable to my own self. Moreover, it always helped me in being mentally and physically ready for any important occasion.
                                         Sometimes we tend to change our standpoint for the sake of convenience but let us remember that If it can be changed then it is not standpoint. If we do not stand on our standpoints in our lives, we will fall for everything.
                                         Every moment will become heavy, every situation will be nerve - wracking, every interaction will be tense.
                                         An ego filled heart is always walking on fire. Never can there be a moment of marriage between ego and ease.
                                         But with standpoints in life, life becomes easy and smooth for us and for people around us, because our decisions will be  made based on standpoints and not on situations.

Decision making becomes very difficult without standpoints.
Ego based life is chaotic. Standpoint based life is orderly.


Choice is ours




Wishing you all a true World Environment Day , 5th June





Please view my blogs on
kumarskumar.blogspot.com
http://wp.me/p8OWta-u
My blogs @ SK1955 on FB
@skumar272010 on twitter

Relationship......

Virgoans, by their basic intrinsic nature are perfectionists. There are others also in this category but it may be to a lesser extent. At times this gets so much aggravated that it starts adversely affecting relationships.
This apart many a times ego clashes are very often seen in relationships. Many lives have been disturbed or lost due to such occurrences which in turn have avoidable terrible impact on immature mind of children.
Under such situations people inadvertently take recourse in alternative measures, ethical or unethical, which may further aggravate the situation.

Paying too much attention to the small and trivial stuffs is the very cause of all the disturbances in relationships. Most relationships don't suffer because of major issues, but because too many small - small stuffs that have a snowballing effect on the relationship.
God has sent us to this world with unique individual personalities and let us accept each other as we are rather than trying to change each other as per our requirement.
This becomes still more difficult as we start catching up with our age. So the best thing is to accept a few things in life which we cannot change and make the other person happy.


Cribbing and complaining, fretting and fuming all the time about all the petty stuffs ruins peace in relationships. Why can't we leave the small stuff small ? What is the need to make mountain out of a molehill ?

Let us give space and free personal time to each other which in fact will go a long way in strengthening the relationship.

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In fact, when we stop interfering in small stuffs, our voice will be counted in bigger matters; else our voice will be discounted.
But the above does not apply when it comes to oneself. It goes without saying that giving complete attention to the smallest of details pays rich dividends. Finishing touches are in the details.

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The German born American architect Ludwig once said, ' God is in the details '. In today's corporate world it is said that ' The devil is in the details.'
Without attending to the details minutely, personal excellence is just not possible in today's fast paced world. More often than not, it is the last inch that actually counts.
So let us follow a simple principle that can make a huge difference to our lives.
When it comes to others, let us leave small things small. This will give us tremendous peace of mind in our relationships.
When it comes to ourselves, let us pay attention even to the small things.
This will ensure excellence in everything we do.
But the million dollar question is why are we even involved in petty things ?
Is it because of felling of supremacy, gender bias, class, society etc or just imbibed in our mental frame of mind and  personality ?
Let us not forget that when we learn to leave small things small, our voice will be counted on big things.
Leave petty things petty, and life will be pretty.
Make issues of petty things, and even a pretty life will become petty.
Let us take a self pledge to produce excellent work by focusing on small details and also enjoy excellent relationship by dropping small issues...
Life and relationships are beautiful gifts from God to mankind.
Let us understand it from heart and enjoy life without any inhibition.


(Zindagi na milegi dobara....)
You get life only once....




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